Let that go now !!!

In today's world worries are endless and in fact a simple breakup becomes a big problem to get over at a particular point of time. It took me a hell lot of time to get over my first break up. I was in complete depression. I stopped talking to my friends; I stopped responding to my family members and became an absolute robotic creature. I just wanted to get over it at any cost and that's how I started with analyzing the things which will make me strong enough to get over it. Here are few simple things each and every person can adopt in his or her life to get over a relationship and make a new beginning but remember getting over something doesn't always mean that you have to start with a newer one:

1. Start spending good time with family members

 The best way to let things go is to give time to the things or to the people whom who have ignored while being in that relationship and the first people whom you ignored were your parents. Start giving time to your parents , start listening to them and their feelings as you will get to know many new things which you missed while being in that relationship. You will get to know that there was so much in the hearts of your parents which they wanted to say and share with you when you were busy with your own world be it be worthy enough or not. You will realize that you family is your biggest strength. No matter how much you have faced in that relationship or no matter how much this world has criticized you, your parents are the ones who loves you the way you are. So start loving your family more than you did before and give that part of love to your family which you shared with that guy or girl.

2. Make books your friend 

There is nothing new while saying that books are our best friends and especially at a time when your dearest one has left you, books are the ones which can empathize with you while being quiet and just giving you lessons without even speaking what majority of us love when we are in trauma. We don't want anyone to even come near to us and sympathies when we want to be left alone. It's better that despite of locking yourself in a dark room just buy some novels or fictions or motivational life changing books and start reading them. Trust me books are the biggest healers.

3. Rock music

Till when you are going to miss that person who did not understand your emotions and left you crying and begging and asking him/ her to come back in your life? Oh Comon he/ she did not deserve your love nor your tears. Just start with a fresh life again. No more tears, no more regrets and no more thoughts related to your past. Just bang on with new and rocking music. Remember music can change the mood and so can change the world. Music makes us feel relaxed and takes us to a different world. I remember my favorite music during the days of my breakup. They were just emotional shits which used to make me miss him even more and then I decided to switch to rocking and some motivational music. Believe me it helped me a lot and it really does help everybody. Music is the real stress buster. It connects you with your inner soul and at last with music you start enjoying with yourself. This makes you really busy with yourself.

4. Let it go and start loving yourself.

Remember no one will love you and respect you until you love yourself and respect yourself. Start admiring yourself as you are one of the beautiful things god has made. Let the past rest in peace and start afresh not with anyone else but with yourself. Start loving yourself and gain that lost confidence. Give yourself some time, dress up well, party hard, spend time with good friends , express yourself, laugh loudly, act childishly and do all such things which makes you happier than ever before. Especially do such things which your ex stopped you from doing but you loved to do that like being stupid or immature at times and allowing people to laugh at you or with you with your kiddish acts.

5. Spend time with yourself and groom yourself.

If you want to think and take it as revenge you can but for the satisfaction of your soul start working on yourself and start making yourself a better person one can spend time with. Read books related to personality development. Personality development doesn't necessarily mean how to walk, eat, stand or walk. It means how to behave wisely and pleasantly with people and make people feel good when they are with you. Start using nice gestures which makes you feels good about yourself. Start making others happy by doing some good deeds. Believe me or not making other happy really boosts up the confidence and you start cherishing your life. Be thankful to god that he has given you a life worth cherishing and you are worthy enough to help someone and make someone happy. No matter who made you sad, making someone happy makes you a better person and on a selfish note you get some blessings as well.

6. Don't ever run and crave for a mender.

You are your real reliever. No one ever in this world can heal your pains if you yourself can't. Don't ever run for a mender who will come into your life and listen to your past story and then you will put your head on his/ her shoulder and cry. And if so please don't end up with this melodrama of falling in love with each other. I mean in some cases it might work. But please stop asking for help and a reliever from here and there. In such situations of course a bff can understand your situation but a stranger might be just interested in getting laid in such emotional situations. So stop being weak in front of the world. Face the world with a brighter smile. 

7. Stop complaining about your past in front of everybody 

The worst thing a person does is complaining about past. I mean ok fine you have some close friends in front of whom you can talk about your past. But talking about it everywhere? Frankly speaking you will lose respect for yourself in front of others. People will start ignoring you and start feeling pity about you. Stop it!

8. Watch movies.

For god's sake stop watching those emotional shits. I mean grow up and start watching some intelligent, action or thriller movie. It really helps in distracting your mind from those pathetic melodramas and makes you feel better and think in a different way. You get rejuvenated and start looking the world from a different perspective. Believe me watching a good movie really helps a lot.

9. Start giving time to other things what you love doing

I love writing and reading. Start following your hobbies and making this world a fun place to live. Start being imaginative and follow your dreams. A breakup sometimes helps in a positive way and you start concentrating more on the work you do. You need not to over load yourself with work but you can focus more on your work and your hobbies now apart from just chatting and fighting on trivial matters.

10.  For god's sake don't stop smiling.

A genuine smile can win billions of hearts. And smiling is the biggest way to defeat your enemies. Take it any which ways but for god's sake don't stop smiling. Be it a small reason to a bigger one don't loose your smile. It makes you feel better as well as the one standing in front of you feel good. And at the end of the day if you want to remain fit you have to smile and that too from the bottom of the heart.

11. At last don't forget to give it back to that bastard.

Apart from the above mentioned points, the best way if you are still dwelling into the past is to confront that person and say whatever you want to say. Shout at him/ her, cry, scold, do whatever you want to do like Kareena kapoor of jab we met. It works, it really works. My friend suggested this to me and believe me when I did it and when I started saying things to my ex, I ended up feeling relaxed. I felt great. I knew there were things which were disturbing me all day and night whenever I used to be free and I genuinely wanted to say and yell like hell in front of him. I did and now I am much happier than I was before. At least he/she should understand how much it hurts when you are being dumped or when it doesn't works out. Say whatever was there in your heart. One positive point would be he/she is no longer there in your life and now you are not afraid of a mere break up anymore. So don't hesitate and make your soul free from your past.