Once my grandma told me story which I
remember after reading the “kiss of love” issue and it goes like this:
Once upon a time a father and his son decided
to go to some place together along with a camel. The father insisted to his son
to ride on camel and he will walk on the sand. While they were crossing a
village, the villagers started commenting on the two of them saying what kind
of son is he? He has no respect for his father. How could he let his father
walk while he is riding a camel? After listening to villager’s comments the son
came down and asked his father to ride the camel to which father agreed and
hence they left the village. After crossing that village they entered another
village. The moment villagers saw a father riding the camel and son walking on
sand they started commenting, what kind of father is he has let his son walk
over the hot sand and is comfortable while riding the camel. He is so
shameless. Both the father and son were in dilemma now. Whom to listen?? What
to do??
Moral of the story: No matter what you are
doing, the society finds a way out to criticize you, even if it is good or bad
for you or for them!!
Have you people ever witnessed a couple or
just two friends out of whom one was a male and another one was female who got
harassed by the local police or any political party. Kerala case, Hyderabad
case and none other than the valentine day’s cases can never be forgotten where
the political parties and policemen beats up or harass the couples who even sit
together in the parks or are seen anywhere dating or holding hands together.
Do you know why they have such a power and
are able to snatch from us our fundamental right of equality?
First One is section
294(a) of the IPC which states that "Whoever,
to the annoyance of others, does any obscene
act in any public place shall be punished with imprisonment for a term
which may extend to three months, or with fine, or with both.
Truth behind the section: The meaning of the word 'obscene' is not given in Indian Penal Code,
hence it is interpreted differently by different authorities.
And this is the reason most of the youngsters
are harassed for the sake of law by the policemen because policemen themselves
are not clear about the law and according to their interpretation “Obscene Act”
includes the act of couples holding hands or dating in public. On the other
hand maximum youngsters are unaware of the law and get scared when any higher
authority threatens them to charge.
Another
reason
for this is the moral values or the name sake of Indian Culture. I was shocked
and surprised when the youngsters went against Modi ji’s statement and SC’s
judgment of giving freedom to people for showing their love in public. For them
this is against the Hindu culture/ Indian Culture/ Moral values etc etc. Can
anyone please tell me where does the moral values of the youth goes when used
condoms are found on the university’s/ any collage’s floors or when any girl
gets raped by those valueless youngsters and other heinous crimes are attempted
by our “moral value driven youngsters”. Where does their values and culture go
when they do not hesitate in adopting western culture for their own benefits
and leisure?
Ahh how sad is this that going out at night
and hanging out with friends with bottle of beers, coming home late night and
disrespecting the elders is totally cultural and comes under the “Hindu
culture/Moral values”. Finding a hidden place and raping a girl is totally
cultural…ohh how could I forget that it
was not public, those innocent rapists did that in silence but please remind me
of Nirbhaya case then!! . Sending parents at old age home comes under the
practice of moral values, live-in relationships are just normal and cultural
but my dear friend showing love in public is totally immoral. Please do not
commit such a mistake in public otherwise this time police might not arrest you
but “the moral value driven youngsters” might
harm you!!
I want to ask the protesters who were against
“kissing and showing love in public”, haven’t any one of them kissed their
loved ones. Do all of them wake up early in the morning, goes to temple, touch
their parent’s feet, comes to college, attend the class, goes to home, listen
to bhajans, complete their studies and goes back to bed early at night.
I agree that showing love in public should be
in limits but was that right to comment that “if you will kiss in public I will f*** your ******* in public”. Was
the statement itself cultural enough? Where did your moral values go while
commenting like that?
Intention of
the law: Well
according to me the intention of Supreme Court’s judgment was clear. SC and HC
were against the inhuman behavior of policemen and political parties which goes
totally against the youth and takes away from them their fundamental right of
freedom. At times policemen, out of their hangover of power do not even accept
the simple truth that the two of them might be actually married and just
because they were unable to give any proof of their marriage they are harassed
for the sake of power. I mean how illogical is this that in India whenever a
married woman goes out with her husband, it is not out of custom or tradition
that she has to put “sindoor” or wear
a “mangalsootra”, but because police might
arrest them or harass the two of them and put them into the jail for the sake
of our culture.
Confusion of
Love
This time the youth was actually confused
whether to accept the new law or reject the same. I accepted it wholeheartedly
and when asked by my colleagues, they accepted it when they wanted to show love
but rejected the whole idea of their sisters being kissed in public. Well my
dear friends please understand that the girls whom you will kiss in public
would be someone or other’s sisters or daughters. Am I right while calling it
still a male chauvinistic society?
This is not a protest against the SC’s
judgment but confusion between culture and desire. We want to avail the freedom of expression which itself
includes expressing love but we are confusing the same with our moral values or
tradition.
Please answer some of my questions which are
running in my mind:
Where the
culture goes when a male policeman beats up a female in public?
Why don’t
this youth talk about culture when they do not hesitate in commenting on the
outfits of girls and harassing them?
Why the
political parties are still quiet on the biggest crime on earth and that is
raping a girl’s soul? Or have they started counting it as a trend/culture?
In a country
where poverty and rising population are still one of the biggest issues how
could political leaders and “over-thinkers of culture” find time to raise such
an illogical issue?
How about
raising the voices against Human-trafficking and prostitution or is it cultural
cum traditional in the eyes of my budding politicians who are at present the “rockstars” of youth.
Well India is an over –legislative country
and the only reason behind breaking the law is because of the over-lapping of
law and ignorance of law. Maximum of us are not actually aware of many of the
laws passed by the govt. from the past many years and even if they get to know
about any one of them, they are ready to make an issue out of it.
India needs some change. Adopting things
blindly might be dangerous but adopting right things at the right time is the
need of the hour. And the expectation from the youth is to be broad minded
enough to accept the changes wholeheartedly.
