Let that go now !!!

In today's world worries are endless and in fact a simple breakup becomes a big problem to get over at a particular point of time. It took me a hell lot of time to get over my first break up. I was in complete depression. I stopped talking to my friends; I stopped responding to my family members and became an absolute robotic creature. I just wanted to get over it at any cost and that's how I started with analyzing the things which will make me strong enough to get over it. Here are few simple things each and every person can adopt in his or her life to get over a relationship and make a new beginning but remember getting over something doesn't always mean that you have to start with a newer one:

1. Start spending good time with family members

 The best way to let things go is to give time to the things or to the people whom who have ignored while being in that relationship and the first people whom you ignored were your parents. Start giving time to your parents , start listening to them and their feelings as you will get to know many new things which you missed while being in that relationship. You will get to know that there was so much in the hearts of your parents which they wanted to say and share with you when you were busy with your own world be it be worthy enough or not. You will realize that you family is your biggest strength. No matter how much you have faced in that relationship or no matter how much this world has criticized you, your parents are the ones who loves you the way you are. So start loving your family more than you did before and give that part of love to your family which you shared with that guy or girl.

2. Make books your friend 

There is nothing new while saying that books are our best friends and especially at a time when your dearest one has left you, books are the ones which can empathize with you while being quiet and just giving you lessons without even speaking what majority of us love when we are in trauma. We don't want anyone to even come near to us and sympathies when we want to be left alone. It's better that despite of locking yourself in a dark room just buy some novels or fictions or motivational life changing books and start reading them. Trust me books are the biggest healers.

3. Rock music

Till when you are going to miss that person who did not understand your emotions and left you crying and begging and asking him/ her to come back in your life? Oh Comon he/ she did not deserve your love nor your tears. Just start with a fresh life again. No more tears, no more regrets and no more thoughts related to your past. Just bang on with new and rocking music. Remember music can change the mood and so can change the world. Music makes us feel relaxed and takes us to a different world. I remember my favorite music during the days of my breakup. They were just emotional shits which used to make me miss him even more and then I decided to switch to rocking and some motivational music. Believe me it helped me a lot and it really does help everybody. Music is the real stress buster. It connects you with your inner soul and at last with music you start enjoying with yourself. This makes you really busy with yourself.

4. Let it go and start loving yourself.

Remember no one will love you and respect you until you love yourself and respect yourself. Start admiring yourself as you are one of the beautiful things god has made. Let the past rest in peace and start afresh not with anyone else but with yourself. Start loving yourself and gain that lost confidence. Give yourself some time, dress up well, party hard, spend time with good friends , express yourself, laugh loudly, act childishly and do all such things which makes you happier than ever before. Especially do such things which your ex stopped you from doing but you loved to do that like being stupid or immature at times and allowing people to laugh at you or with you with your kiddish acts.

5. Spend time with yourself and groom yourself.

If you want to think and take it as revenge you can but for the satisfaction of your soul start working on yourself and start making yourself a better person one can spend time with. Read books related to personality development. Personality development doesn't necessarily mean how to walk, eat, stand or walk. It means how to behave wisely and pleasantly with people and make people feel good when they are with you. Start using nice gestures which makes you feels good about yourself. Start making others happy by doing some good deeds. Believe me or not making other happy really boosts up the confidence and you start cherishing your life. Be thankful to god that he has given you a life worth cherishing and you are worthy enough to help someone and make someone happy. No matter who made you sad, making someone happy makes you a better person and on a selfish note you get some blessings as well.

6. Don't ever run and crave for a mender.

You are your real reliever. No one ever in this world can heal your pains if you yourself can't. Don't ever run for a mender who will come into your life and listen to your past story and then you will put your head on his/ her shoulder and cry. And if so please don't end up with this melodrama of falling in love with each other. I mean in some cases it might work. But please stop asking for help and a reliever from here and there. In such situations of course a bff can understand your situation but a stranger might be just interested in getting laid in such emotional situations. So stop being weak in front of the world. Face the world with a brighter smile. 

7. Stop complaining about your past in front of everybody 

The worst thing a person does is complaining about past. I mean ok fine you have some close friends in front of whom you can talk about your past. But talking about it everywhere? Frankly speaking you will lose respect for yourself in front of others. People will start ignoring you and start feeling pity about you. Stop it!

8. Watch movies.

For god's sake stop watching those emotional shits. I mean grow up and start watching some intelligent, action or thriller movie. It really helps in distracting your mind from those pathetic melodramas and makes you feel better and think in a different way. You get rejuvenated and start looking the world from a different perspective. Believe me watching a good movie really helps a lot.

9. Start giving time to other things what you love doing

I love writing and reading. Start following your hobbies and making this world a fun place to live. Start being imaginative and follow your dreams. A breakup sometimes helps in a positive way and you start concentrating more on the work you do. You need not to over load yourself with work but you can focus more on your work and your hobbies now apart from just chatting and fighting on trivial matters.

10.  For god's sake don't stop smiling.

A genuine smile can win billions of hearts. And smiling is the biggest way to defeat your enemies. Take it any which ways but for god's sake don't stop smiling. Be it a small reason to a bigger one don't loose your smile. It makes you feel better as well as the one standing in front of you feel good. And at the end of the day if you want to remain fit you have to smile and that too from the bottom of the heart.

11. At last don't forget to give it back to that bastard.

Apart from the above mentioned points, the best way if you are still dwelling into the past is to confront that person and say whatever you want to say. Shout at him/ her, cry, scold, do whatever you want to do like Kareena kapoor of jab we met. It works, it really works. My friend suggested this to me and believe me when I did it and when I started saying things to my ex, I ended up feeling relaxed. I felt great. I knew there were things which were disturbing me all day and night whenever I used to be free and I genuinely wanted to say and yell like hell in front of him. I did and now I am much happier than I was before. At least he/she should understand how much it hurts when you are being dumped or when it doesn't works out. Say whatever was there in your heart. One positive point would be he/she is no longer there in your life and now you are not afraid of a mere break up anymore. So don't hesitate and make your soul free from your past.  

    

Glass Door!!! what a mess

I was so damn happy after getting this new job. Working at a position in a reputed company means something different. Of course the feeling comes like WOW!!. But yes the expectations doesn't leaves your mind and you need to work harder and harder. Well leaving all the sincere, an achiever kindaa crap behind lemme tell you about my new cabin ...........it is a bigger one but with a glass door wherein people can look inside and watch the stuffs I am doing !!!!..I mean WTF?? How can any one do this to a girl who has lots of stuffs to do apart from working during office hours?

Starting with, in the morning after putting the bag on the table the first thing I search for is my hair brush, then a mirrors comes out of my bag and then a lip gloss and at last the the perfume bottle. I mean yes I do get ready at home but after coming to office you need to give a touch up yarr !! And guess what for all this touch up you need to cross a big row of people wherein you need to say good morning to some and some says good morning to you while some remain quiet and just observe as in what are you wearing today is so damn annoying ..,.well annoying or embarrassing , I am still confused because after a period of time those so called colleagues of yours' get to know where do you go first after coming to office. And most probably this is the only reason why some of them just remain quiet and keeps on observing you. And this is just because of that bloody glass door. I mean I just don't understand what is the benefit to the management in this??

Ahh well the day moves on with this so called complaint of mine which will prevail till I am here ... now the series of people going from right direction to left direction and vice-a -versa starts  and so does start their habit to just look into that "glass door" once. I mean can anyone please tell me why do they look inside ?? and every time someone look inside I have to behave as if I am so damn busy with my work and don't have time to look up and see who is watching me. This continues for the whole day, even if I am doing nothing I just pretend to look into my system and stay busy...all thanks to that "glass door". Till now there is no clue to me as why do people have a tendency to look inside where you are not allowed to...I mean only in a straight manner ...no double meaning talks please!!

The day still continues with the same feeling and more than my work I sometimes worry about that "glass door" as some co-workers takes the biggest advantage of that. They just enters the office , comes in front of that row from where my office could be seen directly and stands for a while ( I don't know pretending or what) but  still don't understand why do their phone rings at that point only and they people stand there only while talking. I still control my emotions and just console myself that ... Well, Nisha might be they get the best network at that place only. I continue with my work....no option!!

But the real situation of embarrassment comes when you are checking you whatsapp or facebook and smiling on a silly joke and people are still looking inside. Oh my god.. again the feeling is like WTF!!
But I am thankful the shit load of work that I do not get much time to bother about that annoying yet silly habit of  people looking inside the glass door when they know that they are not going to get a glimpse of my smile ;) lol

For them the only thing which comes in mind is "Mind Your Own Business and go to hell for heaven's sake"

I am Obliged :)

Ahh that's all !!!

Well thinking of something you did not get makes you think in a positive manner as well that what have you got till now. Like what ?? A good time, a good life to live, a good smile to give and make others happy, a worthy enough mind to attract, a good family, a nice mother tongue, awesome friends, courage to accept the impossible things and still go for the same, accept the reality and still dream for the same....much more I guess :)

Whenever we look at god we forget to thank him for the good things we have got in our lives and blame him for the things which are not in our lives. Well the truth is we ourselves are responsible for our miseries and things which we did not get. Sometimes a bit of effort, a bit of courage and a bit of faith in god is enough to get the most loved thing but the "bit" is remaining in all of us... and that's so true to realize.

A bit of silence can stop a situation to get converted into argument, a bit of understanding can make your loved ones smile, a bit of care can make someone feel the warmth of your love, a bit of courage can make the impossible thing happen in your life. It's all a bit of efforts which are lacking and we are blaming on god or situation .. what a nice way to blame on him !!

Ahh well I don't blame him for the things I  did not get. Sometimes it was me who did not made the efforts and sometimes someone else could be the reason of me not getting the desired thing...but the subject matter is still the same. "Lack of Efforts"

Moving on to be grateful to the things I got is that love, that presence, that care, that support, that fun, those beautiful moments and all that which made me smile which no one else could get coz that happened to only me and I am the "heroine" of my life :p :) so no one else can ever feel the same. Yes ofcourse you sometimes get the unwanted and undesirable. But then I wonder who was responsible?? Me?? Lack of Efforts?? could be mine or ......!!!



Well let's just move on and be happy with the great things in life.

"Acche ka fal accha hi hota ha :)" 

If you are good then something good will happen to you for sure and be happy with the ones you have... time once gone never comes back but it teaches you a lesson every time.. it could be different from person to person and the experiences could be different as well but at the end of the day it's all same ....the only word ...the only lesson ......."Move On and be happy with what you have" 

The Oldiess.. the goldiess like Fevistickiesss !! My Youngistaan !!

Ahh !! a new one.. I wish I could write something funny but I am so damn confused why this writer in me comes at this situation only.

This time I am gonna write the conclusion of this blog in the starting itself and that is ....the friends whom you meet when you are nothing and still they are with you in all your deeds are the friends forever.

No matter where they go, no matter they call you or not, no matter how busy they are but the feeling which you get when they ping you just once or meet you just once in a year or so is like ...wohh !! It makes you feel like you still have those "nikamme" types people in your life who used to fight just for a treat of "Patties or samosas" and then you all mutually decide to do contry and believe me that contry of 10 , 20 or so used to matter a lot. How we people used to put that 10 Rs note on the table and do the budget planning in the canteen, those silly fights and not talking to any one member of the group and then suddenly asking that particular friend to give us party.

A small incidence of my Rakhi Bro Rahul .:
.once he got to know about a secret of one of the member of the group which was new to all of us as well. Where I and other group members took it normally my cutie pie Rahul made a blunder out of it and the amazing dialogue was

Rahul : "Muje pta ha tum log muje sab kuch q nahi btate  "

Me: "kya pta ha bahi"

Rahul : "Tum sab CBSE se padhe ho aur me Haryana Borad se isliye "

Ohh my god the whole serious enviro became the funniest moment of our lives. I mean can any one give such a silly reason of not telling the truth. Well that was all a quality of my lovely bro jiske har roj 12 bajte thee !!

Hitakshi the most mature girl of our group , our Katrina Kaif , the plan maker, the organiser:)
Rakesh... My RK oops hamara RK , the most helpful person of this world I guess and personally a shoulder to lean on and a person who always gives you an ear when you need someone the most. "the strength of our group"  .
Harshit .. The busiest guy ever and is till now !! well no words to say for an intelligent dude like him.

Ahh Varun.... the prank master and the life of group. The Ranbeer Kapoor of YJHD . No one knew his plans but now when we are knowing that , he makes us feel so proud .

Sneha  amm the peaceful butterfly and the gem of group. "Happy Birthday Sweetheart <3".

That was my Youngistann!!

My real strengths, those who were there during my odds and of course during the good days to make my pocket empty ..lol

When I look into the past and think about those trouble free days when just a breakup was the biggest misery of life and now when every day a new misery starts and we gotta face it like some super man or woman, the only difference I find is I don't have those super nalayak budiies who were there to convert the worries   into some new opportunities or a matter to laugh on :)

But still just a msg makes me feel that yes no matter where you guyz but will always be the closest..
You people are my Goldiesss!!! The gems ... My Youngistann !!

But life never remains the same. The moment you move on and find some new friends and start spending some good time with them they become your guddy buddy. No harm in making new and good friends. Well I found some amazing friends after my graduation days and even now the series is going on. But lemme tell you guyz the real fun was there. The real smile was that only when tears used to roll out while laughing.

No matter with whom you share your sorrows but the real satisfaction comes when those Goldiess listen to that and after a silence makes you laugh just coz of that worry ..

Omg !! how much to write and now coming to the end I wonder I was about to write some other stuff but just a ping of u all makes me forget all worries and other miseries. I am so thankful to god that I am blessed with my Youngistaan!!

Ahh this is not it ..as I said life makes you meet some new wonders of your lives..some good experiences and some bad ...still hanging between those experiences but you guyzz rockzzzzzz n  always will !!

GOOD LUCK MY YOUNGISTANN !! :) 





"Well just a ping from a newer one and I am bound to appreciate that Goldiee as well. Ahh a Cancerian again. I was so afraid of gelling up with a cancer now but amm I wonder why this naughtiness makes me forget all my worries ;) Well what to say for a guy who can write an "Essay Kese" in just two days of knowing you and exactly the way you are.. yes I had tears in my eyes , yes there was a smile on my face and yes that Essay Kese makes my day whenever I read it!!

You are .................. ahh I guess this should be a suspense and shall continue till my next blog. You gotta wait a little bit for your consideration :) Meetha Meetha Tu !!

A broken One !!!

Still awake.... What makes me do that...am I overexcited about life...no!! Am I in love....no !! Am I waiting for a call ...no!! Am I chatting ...no!! What ....here I got it...I'm not happy :(

But I wonder the reason of it.... Is it that I was left alone...ammm my best buddy ditched ?? Only this could be the reason ??? ...well at times only a silly reason can make u feel like uhh...not even worth sharing... U get upset of no reason without even analysing what made u fall unto it...and the time you make up a mind to analyse the same ...u can't even find a single reason of getting upset...wohhh waooo damn crazy and stupid thought it was but then that's true and true in all the senses.

 I'm so surprised with the skill a human being can possess... I mean without even saying the real cause of it the whole story could be naratted and the only one who has ever fallen into the situation would get it in a while...

Hmm I'm also bad at narattions ...ahh I was a good narattor anyways..it feels like giving explanations or what..it's a broken narattion, a broken story which could not be naratted nor could be written nor understood...I wonder who will ?? I guess a patient one or a phycologist...funny!!


It's a broken one!!! And will always be ......................,................

A Girl's Wish

The world says that it is really impossible to read a girl's mind. Uhh well it's true. Coz the state of mind through which a girl has to go through on daily basis is not so simple to be understood  by the common people. Yeah that's true. That's the reality. The time I must be thinking of my family and getting lost into it, my friend might be thinking that I am not interested to talk or might end up saying......Ooooo Boyfrienddd hmmmm. Oh Come On, I mean who really cares about what the world thinks of me or what interpretations they are making, I am Lostttt. I am lost in my own world of dreams and desires. 

Yes that's me and that's how a girl is. Just happy with her life and with the people whom she loves in her life. I might ask for n number of gifts , I might ask for n number of dresses, I might ask for a good life, some luxuries, some amusements or may be nothing. What all a girl want is not those materialistic things but true love in all those things she gets from her loved ones. Sometimes a hug, a kiss, a soft touch, a sweet voice, a cute smile, caring eyes and a shoulder where she can put her head and cry is enough. A hand which she can hold and hold for life is enough for her satisfaction. She doesn't want a big bouquet of red roses, sometimes a single rose filled with love is enough.

I.......I am a daughter, a sister, a true friend, and of all a true lover. Yes love connects me.. Love connects me and make me a good daughter , love keeps me inspired and become a supportive sister, love motivates me to become a true and loyal friend, no matter how many betrayals I had to face. no matter who left me , I am glad to say, I never left anyone. Love satisfies me in all the ways and that's what a girl wants in her life,  "Satisfaction". Satisfaction of love, satisfaction of joy, satisfaction of peace, satisfaction of having a perfect family, a loyal friend , a caring lover and a good life.:)

Are We Paying Off By Being Women

Previously it was Delhi and now it's Mumbai. Reading Times of Indian on my way to Office is always a good start of my job but that day I was upset when I read another brutal rape case. This must not be my condition but all the sensible citizens of our country would have been in the same situation. But this is not the first case and of course will not be the last one. I mean what is actually going on in the mindset of people. The more media tells us about the stories of gang rape the more number of stories again becomes a part of the next day's news headlines and one more was a police constable was allegedly gang raped. And the news doesn't stop over here,  who is unaware of That Saint's Case which is on air these days.Can any one tell me is it only fake.. Well more than the rape case I am surprised on his statement!! Please don't justify his statement that Nirbhaya should have pleaded in front of those rapists and should have said bhaiya to them. Can that saint please tell me one point that was he the victim of the case and had he seen Nirbhaya not asking them no leave her or pleading for her life? Who knows what she has gone through or what that 23 year old journalist must have gone through and what is in the mind of that 5 year old girl who was raped by her neighbour and what that widow must be facing who was raped by decoits and how much humiliation the family has to face,  what each and every girl of the country must be thinking after listing scores of cases of rapes and yet this is not over. Who knows who is next!!!

Please tell me when all this is gonna get over? Starting from female foeticide, to rapes to brutal behavior after marriage or throwing of acids if a girl says no to marriage, those murders just for greed, that humiliation in the society, that inhuman behaviour ................is it going to get over one day or we have to face the world like this. 

"Are we actually paying off by being women."